Chasing Dreams vs. Size One Jeans

It’s sad to me when I see beautiful women with the world in their hands practically chanting ‘thin, thin, thin’ as if that’s the motto. When did society get to decide your shape? And when did it become all you care about? What about your hopes & dreams? Imagine the life you can create for yourself if you simply put the energy focused on being thin towards your personal goals. I promise you’d catch yourself forgetting all about having the ‘perfect figure’ because people would be looking up to you as a person of success vs. you always looking down on yourself to check the number on the scale. That will come from hard work–it comes from being strong. 

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Ladies, I am young & many of you are as well. I just want you to know that you have the whole world in your hands! And someday, if it’s part of your journey (for many of you it already has been), you will be given the gift of motherhood. My main concern is this: how can we expect to teach our children self-love, respect, and proper care for their bodies when we are practicing habits that rebel against all of those things & more?

And to set the record straight, it is not just women who struggle with insecurities rooting from their physical appearance. Men have just as hard of a time although they might express it differently or not at all. So, this isn’t just for the ladies, this is for all of the handsome and capable men out there as well.

Put your dreams before your jeans. Stop telling yourself you can’t. Eat healthy, stay active, be positive and always stay focused on what really matters. Life is a balancing act & nobody is perfect. But if you can open your eyes to all of your potential and run with it I’m sure you’ll catch yourself having those rewarding “this is absolutely perfect” moments quite often. Once you control your mind you can conquer your body.

Don’t look back. You are amazing & you’re worth it. Go. 

Proud To Call You Mine

When I look back on the days before you came into my life I am amazed — I cannot believe how far I have come as an individual. We met at a time where I was desperately seeking stability in all aspects of life. My opinion of ‘boys’ was unfortunately carried over to men as well. When we first met I wasn’t interested in even the idea of having a relationship. I thought your game was sweet but that you were likely just another asshole. It was one of those rare but true circumstances where it was not you, it was me. I had been hurt one too many times. My thought process was that in order to be happy I had to work hard enough to be independent. I was simply tired of relying on others for my happiness.

Soon I realized I could not avoid your charm. You made me laugh so hard I would snort at work in my favorite red dress. When you would see me overwhelmed with reservations & struggling to hang a fur coat that weighed more then me you were right there helping me. I spent so much energy pretending I didn’t like you it would have been easier to just give in. You called me every night & we’d talk until our phones would die or our eyes were filled with sand. After 3 days of ignoring your calls (I was trying my hardest to not fall in love) I received a text on my way to school that said “Are you alive?”

It has been over a year since you sent me that text and to make things worse I don’t think I ever replied. So here it is my love. Better late then never: Yes, I am alive. I am SO alive! I woke up in the middle of the night from a bad dream last week & when I turned over you kissed me — it took my breathe away. My heartbeat is steady & healthy because of you. You help me to be the woman I have always wanted to be. You believe in my dreams & listen to all my stupid blog posts. You even tell me how proud you are when I get a new follower or kind comment. After working for hours you come home & still stay up late to watch our favorite show with me. You don’t get mad when I run into your heels with the grocery cart, and you tuck me into bed when I fall asleep on the couch. I fell in love with you when I was trying my very hardest not to and for that I thank you… That was the time that I needed you in my life the most.

Happy Birthday Andrew, I love you with every little piece of me.

You’re an incredible man & I am so proud to call you mine. Cheers to the times we have had & many more to come.